Is it possible to have a relationship with someone who is Bipolar??? I need some serious advice. Help me!?

Five weeks ago I started dating a guy and in the beginning it was great. It started to spiral downwards pretty fast, he began acting suspicious and moody, I put it down to him just being as *** and decided to finish with him. Since then he came back looking for me and told me that he has Bipolar, he didn't explain how bad it was and not knowing anything about it I didn't ask. This past weekend he was weird again and when I wouldn't drop my plans to go off with him for the weekend at 10pm on Friday night without any time to pack he took a huff and has not spoken to me since! So today I went online and looked up the disorder, it completely explains his erratic and moody behavior. I鈥檓 going to talk to him the next time I see him and find out how severe his case is before I decide what to do. My head is telling me to run a mile but my heart wont let me, Has anyone out there gone through this, have they dated or are still dating someone who is Bipolar??? How hard is it to deal with?Is it possible to have a relationship with someone who is Bipolar??? I need some serious advice. Help me!?
i think i have symptoms of bipolar but it may not be as bad as your guy. I'll have to warn that it will be a very difficult and energy draining relationship. I appreciate the fact that you were willing to give him a chance after he told you about this disorder but I think its best if you get out of it. He needs to learn how to deal with this disorder. If not every relationship he will take part in will end up being a complete disaster. Unless you like a challenge. But I understand where he is coming from and because of that I tend to push alot of guys away, not on purpose of course.





I would say follow your heart but sometimes the heart doesnt always know whats best. That's why i always believe that you should use both your heart and your head when making a decision especially when it comes to relationships. Balance and measure your pros and cons and take it from there.


Good luck with you and yoursIs it possible to have a relationship with someone who is Bipolar??? I need some serious advice. Help me!?
I have dated my husband since I was 17 years old, He was a very heavy drinker, and one minute he was happy the next minute he was really angry, he never hit me, just verbally. I left him after 2 years. I was sick of his antics. when I was 20 we got back together and got married....we also had a son. What was the trick, he had promised to stop drinking for good, then we had twins. Somthing was still not right, he would over re-act in every situation, he was so angry, but then again a few seconds later all smiles, and saying how blessed he was. Finally I said look, you need to see a phscychiartist and a therapist. He did, and we found out he was BiPolar. It is an mental inbalance. Being and Loving a person with a disease like this is very difficult. We just need to be supportive, make sure they take the required medication, and they must know they are not less of a person for taking the medication, just a better person for wanting to change for the better. I am now 25, my husband is 30, and we are very happy and blessed.





Good Luck!
if you are young..the first answerer is correct - RUN...you will spend your life worrying about the persons moods - extreme highs %26amp; rock bottom lows..





my friend's friends' husband had this %26amp; he finally commited suicide..at a time when they thought he was ok. i can only imagine it would be awful to cope with for you.
It is possible to have a meaningful relationship with someone who is bipolar but only if they take their medication regularly.


It seems to me that this guy has been skipping his tablets and the result is his erratic behaviour. I would definitely keep my distance from him if I were you.
I AM bi-polar and have medications that even out my disposition and mood swings. If he doesn't care to get help, get out......he's being selfish to you and to himself. You can live a perfectly normal life if you're being treated properly for being bi-polar...it's nothing more than a chemical imbalance and it's treatable. He'd feel a lot better, too. If he doesn't chose to get help - get out - it will only drive YOU into fits! Good luck!
People with diagnosed, TREATED mental illnesses can have loving relationships. ';As Good as It Gets'; is about such a situation.





But if this man is saying he's acting weird because he's bipolar, that doesn't mean he's in treatment.





He could be a wonderful guy. But without treatment, his anger could be dangerous.





So you need to stop seeing him until you really know the answers to these questions:





IS HE ON MEDICATION? IS HE TAKING THE PRESCRIBED AMOUNT?





Do you get something out of being with him? Or would you be just as well off without him?





Also, be sure that if you keep seeing him, he takes you to meet his friends or family. If he has no friends, and his family members don't want to have anything to do with him, that is a very bad sign.
Your friend may not tell you how severe his symptoms of bipolar are, as he probably wants to continue seeing you. Both my husband and I have the disease, and we support and care for each other, but it isn't easy by any means. You need to ask your friend if he takes his medication, as he will need to take it in order to stabilize his mood. However, if he drinks alcohol, then he shouldn't if he takes medication as the two don't go together! It takes an awful lot of love and dedication to have a relationship with a person suffering with bipolar, but it can work for some people. Good luck.
It can be hard to be in a relationship with someone who is bipolar, but it is possible. It may not be smart or safe to stay with the person if he is not getting proper treatment. He should probably be on medication and under the supervision of a psychiatrist to make sure he stays stable. It's not fair to you to try to put up with him when he's not making an effort to get better.
I've been dating a bilpolar lady (I'm 48, she's 41) for almost two years. It can be very difficult; you have to be strong and realize that the behavior really has nothing to do with you. Every now and then she needs a reality check which she finds hurtful at the time but thanks me for later.





Is he on medication and, if so, is he taking it regularly?
Bipolar is difficult to deal with, especially in a relationship. But is is possible to live with someone with Bipolar. For anyone wondering what Bipolar is, it is basically a form of depression with extremes in mood and behaviour. It is often referred to as ';manic depression';.





The first thing that needs to happen for things to work is for him to get help. That means going to see a doctor who will refer him to some sort of counselling and probably put him on medication.





It is important that he accepts his condition and isn't in denial that there is a problem. He needs to take responsbility for his condition. If he can do all this then there is a chance.





Also you should accept that there are going to be times where he is difficult to deal with and he may even take out his frustration on you.





If there is any violent behaviour towards you then you really should call it off and leave. No mental or physical condition is an excuse for violence in a relationship.





You obviously care about him, just make sure he cares about you and by this I mean that he is willing to accept his condition exists and take action to deal with it. Don't let him make promises to you and the break them. If he says he will do something then he should do it.





I hope this helps a little ;)
It is very hard especially if he isn't getting help with it. Bipolar people are great and amazng one minute and the next they are evil. I have a very close friend with this and I feel like there is always drama. If your heart really feels for him tell him to get help and make sure he keeps it under control and help him! Otherwise if you really don't want to deal with it or if you just can't deal with it... walk away it's ok to do so.
He should have told you before starting the relationship, or close to the time anyway.





I'm diagnosed with BPD, I'm God however manic depression (old word for bi polar) should be controlled with lithium.





I diagnose myself with Post Traumatic Stress, a rose by any other name is still a (insert your own joke or, if you are feeling kind, cliche.)
The most important thing to be concerned is whether or not he is seeking treatment., ie., medications and/or therapy. I've maintained a good life with my diagnosis while continuing treatment.





Good luck and take care of you!


Dee
I don't think so. I'm quite severely bi-polar and as well medicated as I've ever been in 22 years but I still have episodes a few times a year lasting hours to weeks. Highs can and regularly do involve infidelity, lying and acting like a right ****. Lows are easier to deal with as it's easier to feel sympathy and to control them. My ex-husband loved me and cared for me for 11 years but it got to him 5 years ago and though we love each other deeply and I'm far more stable, he won't reconsider a relationship and I'd feel selfish pushing him to. Unstable manic depressives are selfish to their family and friends. We can be just plain nasty and violent. I would not consider this man if he's not working very hard with his psychiatrist to stabilise his moods. In fact, I wouldn't touch him anyway. He'll cause you a lot of trouble. Best of luck either way.
Well let me start by saying this:





I am bi-polar. Alot of people are, however, the big question is if he is willing and on medication and getting the help that he needs.





Quite frankly to write someone off becuase they have this illness is judgmental. Now I am not saying you are doing this in the least, I mainly posting this for those who posted this type of response to your question.





Bottom line, if he is on meds and getting the help he needs, then that is showing he is trying to improve himself and learn coping skills to help this issue. If he is not, then you need to move on, as he is being selfish and not in any shape to be in a relationship.





If he is getting the help he needs and on meds, please realize though that the normal ups and downs in a relationship can be amplified to those who have bi-polar disorder and it is normally in times of immense stress that their symptoms flair. It would be at this point that he be open and more communicative to you than normal to let you know what is going on inside of him.





Extra communication is super important when in a relationship with someone who suffers from bi-polar.





Good luck.
Yes it is possible to have a relationship with a bipolar sufferer. I'm bipolar, on medication which stabilises me, and have been in a stable relationship for over 6 years. My partner is caring, compassionate, understanding and patient. He is also my carer.
Firstly, how do you even know he really has bipolar? Yes, he's been acting strangely, but that doesn't necessarily mean that he has the illness: it is over-diagnosed and also, he may have been acting strangely because he was recently diagnosed and coming to terms with that or because he was terrified of losing you when you found out.





Let's assume he really has bipolar affective disorder, though. What does that actually mean? Well, conventionally, it means he is different and needs medication to stabilise his moods (Lithium, mood stabilisers and anti-depressents being the medications of choice for many psychiatrists these days). But has he explored other treatments first (I won't ask whether his doctors have; doctors rarely do); like, is he a rare blood type; what is his diet like; does he drink enough water every day? If every doctor asked those three questions before reaching for the hard drugs, they would save this country a fortune and prevent countless cases of misery that most get from the side-effects to many head drugs.





Let's, however, say he has discovered his blood type; taken the Lewis test to assertain whether he has a rare blood type and is eating a diet specific for him; is drinking plenty of water every day and is physically exercising correctly for his constitution; yet still, either voluntarily or not, takes medication or 'is bi-polar'. What then? The question is, if you love someone deeply then that is the reality that will fill you more than any other anyone can suggest to you - even your family. Love is emotional and instinctive; therefore, let it be. If your love is strong enough to ask this question, it is strong enough to stay and overcome the challenge.





He may want to study advanced methods that he can use to become emotionally flexible (NLP is a fantastic way to achieve this; meditation is another method out of many) and you could even join him on a weekend course if you yourself become interested.





The likelihood from my experience is that he is Blood Type O (possibly A) and that he has been diagnosed due to an increased risk of developing the condition; dietary and lifestyle adjustments may be all that are needed to return him to a healthy state for the rest of your lives.





I was diagnosed with manic depression many years ago yet did not and do not accept the diagnosis. I fought it and beat it using the methods detailed here for you. I am now a writer, NLP master practitioner and clinical hypnotherapist. For many tips on how to turn setbacks into success, see my blog: http://countdowntopublication.blogspot.c鈥?/a>


Good luck, whatever you decide!
First of all you need to ask yourself how much in love with this guy are you. Don't just try to be helpful because you are the one who will become affected by this emotional trauma. There are lots of people who have full and meaningful relationships with people who have mental health problems. He definitely sounds as though he should be taking medication, which will even out the mood swings. This is not something which you can say will be cured overnight, it's a long tough haul and if you feel you are up to the journey, then go ahead. If you feel you are not cut out to be with someone with this type of mental health problem then you only have one option and that is to stay away from him, no matter how hard that may seem. Don't destroy your own health and well being for someone who does not want to help themselves, you are not his plaything nor his sparring partner, you have a right to a happy life and a healthy one...Good luck
RUN, DON'T WALK!!!!