ADHD advice help 2 year old?

Help me anyone.


I have an out of control, crazy toddler (2 year old) girl.


I knew it would come to this stage, ever since she was tiny she would throw tantrums and get angry so easily.


I do every thing by the book discipline wise, never let her get her own way, never let her assert over us (as parents).


I know 2 year olds are hard but honestly... she is IMPOSSIBLE.


Throwing tantrums at least 20 times a day, hurting herself, hitting, kicking etc. She hardly eats, hardly sleeps... shes sending me crazy.


So I know what people will say... go see the doctor...


Well I did that, they say ';two year olds are hard, it will pass'; But I was a nanny for 5 years and NEVER in my expereince have a come across such an angry, stubborn and willful child. The Doc has no idea just how bad it is.


She now has no artificial colours, no sugar, preservatives, and of course wont eat a single thing I make.


What on earth can I do.... I cant go anywhere, do anything and its not fair on my 1 year old (who is very quiet).ADHD advice help 2 year old?
your child doesn't have ADHD she is just being a 2yr old.


plan on having her ';terrible two's'; last well into her three's.


as a nanny you were taking care of other people's children which usually behave much better around non relatives.


my advice is to not be so restrictive. allow her to be a child. its ok to give her sugar and junk food as long as its in moderation. taking everything ';yummy'; away is not going to make her eat your food.


also i believe most dr's/nannies/child professionals...say pick your battles. you say you never let her get what she wants well sometimes that can become a big problem. it sounds like you aren't giving her any room to be herself. this is just one example of what you can do so you don't have a huge battle over the small stuff. (if she wants to pick her own clothes but they never match then get garanimals clothes and no matter what she picks it will match.) or (if she wants a candy bar for dinner then explain that she can have a bite then she has to eat the healthy food then she can have the rest) these are simple ways of what seems to her like you are ';giving in'; but in reality you are getting what you want at the same time.ADHD advice help 2 year old?
Holy crap. It was my story a few years ago. My daughter is older now but yeah. It is going to be a difficult road my friend. My daughter is EXACTLY that way. Trust me. By the book... ha! Not my child. Won't eat anything I cook. DRIVES ME CRAZY. She is 7. If you figure it out honey please tell me. Just kidding. Just keep on keeping on. Consistency and love. And my child is now being tested for ADHD. She failed the first grade. It is hard to handle the willful ones. Good luck to you.
I feel you mom.


I have 4 kids and my 3 yr old son I KNOW is ADHD.


I am planning to take him to the Dr soon to get him on meds.


They DO put them on meds that young.


There's really nothing you can do, trust me.


At age 3, get some meds and everything will be ok.


For now though, take a lot of breaks.


Sitters, date nites... whatever you can do to get a break.
Ignore the unwanted behavior,and praise the good. Children will do strange things to get attention.
FIND ANOTHER DOCTOR
A 2 yr old can not be diagnosed for ADHD, that is too young. I think you just want to take the easy way out %26amp; medicate your child. Two yr olds are hard - they don't listen, they throw tantrums, they're into everything. Really, that's just how they are. Keep trying to show them right from wrong, %26amp; at around 3 they'll slowly grow out of it. Don't be so negative about her %26amp; try to help her learn right from wrong, she' just testing her limits. Since you seem extremely frustrated, maybe you should take some parenting classes. And maybe you should send her to day care for a couple hrs during the day to give yourself a break.
I really really really doubt that she has ADHD. It sounds to me like she has some sensory issues that no one is picking up. Both my 13 year old and my 3, almost 4 year old have some level of sensory dysfunction. This can cause misbehavior, food aversions, sleep issues and all kind of issues. There are 3 things that I would suggest to you:





1. Find a book called ';the out of sync child'; and read it





2. Make note of things like food textures she likes/ dislikes,activities that she seems to enjoy, and any connections between a behavior she enjoys and better behavior afterwards





3%26gt; call your local early intervention program and ask them to do a developmental eval on both kids. There is a good chance that they will spot something that the doctor did not even think of...





My own son had a speech delay ( I knew at 18 moths) and my family doc was not aware of the programs available locally , so he told me to give him time...I did and ended up calling EI at 24 months old. I found out that he had a disorder called ';verbal apraxia'; and was a full 9-12 months behind in his speech. He checked out OK in the other 5 areas they checked. EI is a federally funded program so it is free/low cost regardless of household income. The local WIC clinic or health department should be able to give you contact info.
set up a marble jar you need a SMALL jar or bowl and marbles, for every good thing, add 1-5 marbles, for every tantrum take out 1-3,





tell her to stop, then count, everytime you get to ten, take out a marble, do this til she stops, if she hits, take out 3 for everytime.





when she gets a full jar, buy her a toy or ice cream/ whatever she likes. doll/ect.





it helps to place the reward (or a picture of it) next to the jar to remind her that its her prize





**let her have a treat every once and a while maybe a piece of candy after an uninterupted by a tantrum meal , and dont lean straight to medicine, it can hurt her later
ADHD typically is not diagnosed before 5 (school age). Most cases aren't caught until well into early elementary school (3rd or 4th grade). So the likelihood of any good physician saying anything but 'It's the Terrible Twos and she'll outgrow it' is slim to nil. Sounds like you have a strong-willed child - so do I. Go buy Dr. James Dobson's book 'The New Strong Willed Child'. My parents used the original 'The Strong Willed Child', the new one has been updated. It focuses on bending the will without breaking the spirit.
i dont know what you do for punishment, but i truly think a couple good swats on the (diaper padded) butt can make a huge difference. my 2 yo girl is horrible also, she yells no and hits and says bad mama, never listens, etc... well, once i decided to spank, i would say, dont do that or i will spank you... then i ask, do you want me to spank you, she says no, i start to count to 3, and by the time i get to 2, she stops her behavior and says ';all done, no spank';, and whats really cool, is now she respects what i say, she listens, and she can now count to 3 herself. we also lock her in her room during a fit and say you can come out when you stop crying and being bad, and usually within 5 mins, she is fine. hope it helps... ps- i never spank when she is crying out of fear or lonliness, only misbehavior..... also, if i were you, which im not, i would let the girl have some good eats, maybe its just because she never gets treated with anything except healthy stuff, we all need a little bad in life, to enjoy the good. good luck dude :)
I had problems with my daughter as well and the book, ';Positive Discipline for the First Three Years'; by Jane Nelsen turned everything around. Punishment and harsh discipline cause children to want to act out. Seriously, just try her tactics (really try them) for a week and you'll see a difference with your daughter. If you think your daughter is more mature for her age you can read ';Positive Discipline for Preschoolers'; or the book entitled simply ';Positive Discipline'; both by Jane Nelsen. These books give you more discipline options for a child who can reason more. You daughter definitely sounds more stubborn that most kids, but you can change this without medication just by taking a different approach! Also, the other post was right, children generally act better with caregivers. I take this as a compliment - your daughter trusts you enough and feels comfortable enough with you to let her emotions out around you! Good Luck!
They have a medicine for that.


my little brother is on it.


It's called ridlin i believe.


He has a rather strong dose because he


can be so out of control sometimes.


but you have to be patient.


%26amp;%26amp; learn to ignore certain things.


i know that your baby


%26amp;%26amp; yuu want to give her what she wants


but you cant.


you have to ignore her tantrums.


but when she does good.


treat her like a queen.


fulfill her wildest dreams


%26amp;%26amp; let her know that if she continues to be qood.


she'll get more treatments like that..


hope i helped.
Read books by the following author: Dr. Doris Rapp, and this would be nearly any of her books, online used booksites. Although you don't give her sugar, she may be very sensitive to something else in her diet or her environment. It could be wheat, milk, or something else. The books can help you determine what it could be, but please keep in mind that normal allergy tests won't help and are a waste of money for foods, although they may help with pollens, molds, etc. ADHD children are very sensitive to many things in their environment: sights, sound, sensory as touch on the skin, how much they have to do, light, dark. They have a more sensitive reaction to things, so it can be very difficult for them to filter things out: thus the reaction to lots of things. We removed peanut products from our son's diet, which made a huge difference in the tantrums for him, personally. Our son was difficult from babyhood. He had colic, lots of ear infections, didn't sleep, irritable, etc. But, he ended up having a great sense of humor and smart and continued with his education after high school. Try to accentuate the possitive. Try to make sure she gets enough protein and does not miss any meals. Smile as much as you are able and find interesting things for her to do that are challenging, talk to her a lot, read to her, lots of hugs where tolerated, etc. Let her run outside in the sprinklers, ride bikes, take walks, anything out in the sun. Look up these videos: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fRDpcWZUE鈥?/a>


Dr. Doris Rapp #2:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZzvIq8WIS鈥?/a>


Remember, you are a good parent, this is a difficult thing to work through, but you will do it. Your child will thank you for sticking to researching what is going on and being patient with her. You will figure out what is causing the problem and things will get better. Look up: Candida and ADHD, Leaky Gut and ADHD, Food sensitivities and ADHD. Also, try adding acidophilous to her diet, or other digestive enzymes.