South Asian(American Indian needs some SEX advice) HELP?

I am a south Asian (Muslim Indian) woman, and I am dating this person who is Indian also, for the past 2 months. He is 35 and I am 28, we both have children of our own, and we both have had arrange marriages that ended up in a divorce. We both have been born and raised here in the states, never went back to our homeland.(we are considered, American Indians).We connect a lot and have spoke about everything and anything. My question is – how long to wait on the safe side to have sex, when you are in a serious relationship. We both are very much physically attracted and try to stay in an environment with lots of people surrounding us. But, the temptation still lies. At times – I know when we kiss goodnight; it can lead to other things if one of us doesn’t pull back. (I want to get intimate, but then again, I feel we should wait). And plus, we come from this part of the world that, intimacy is done after marriage (but we are grown adults – who have had a previous marriage), how will it look, if I try to “seduce him” (coz he says that “I turn him on”). Should I wait 6 months or just get wild and crazy with him (to be honest – I have not had any intimacy for about 2-3 yrs (just waiting for someone I want to love to share this with). How will I look in his eyes – if we just get physical? Thank you all…South Asian(American Indian needs some SEX advice) HELP?
If he is very conservative, he might not respect you after you get intimate. If he is not, he will think it is normal. You should talk to him about your expectations and his -- do you think marriage is an option? If all you want is some physical intimacy but no long term relationship, you might be in a different position than he is, and you should work it out between you.South Asian(American Indian needs some SEX advice) HELP?
No dint get wild %26amp; crazy but then again dont just leave him hangin you two are adults you should watch a movie or something you can still cuddle and if it leads to different things then let it be because you are a grown womann you should let faith take its course it is a big difference between making love and having sex you are the creator help choose your destineny take the path of love and not sex





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Wait till you get married before you have sex. I know its hard not to even after being married before but it will be worth the wait.God made sex a Gift from Him to have with your spouse,not to have when you want it.Like i said it will be tough but it will make it worth the wait. God will help you through this too if you let him,just give it time.God bless and good luck on the marrage.
it seems that you have connected, and i think moving on to the next level is the right thing to do, as long as your ready to do it with him. it doesn't matter what other people say. do what you feel is right.
You need to talk to to him about all of this. And this IS America, so people aren't going to judge you for sexual relationships. You're both adults, and you, at least, seem to have your head on straight, so talk to him about it. After all, it's him your'e going to be having the sexual relationship with, not your friends, and not your family members. Ask him if he would like to make the first move, or if he would like for YOU to be the one to make the first move. Good luck
If you want intimacy, whats the problem? Do you fear loosing him? Do you fear he may use you? Dont feel like that, since even if he leaves you. He has not used you, in fact you used him.


Why you dont want to marry him, if that bothers you to make love. Answer lies in your question. If you turn him on and he is not lying you are for him and he may not leave you. You can guess him genuineness better than anybody. In short go ahead and have fun. You have already lost 2/3 yrs in your life. But be safe at the same time. All the best dear.
it will happen when it happens just set the mood
I advise that you communicate openly with him about this. Your better off both having an open understanding of the others values, desires, and needs than to both being cloaked and sneaky and trying to figure each other out.
Two months isn't very long to know someone, but you have both been married previously, so the urges are there big time for you. If you want to get wild %26amp; crazy with him, go for it. Enjoy each other. Congrats!
Lie you say,,,,you are both grown adults and I say go ahead and get wild and crazy and seduce him with all you got. have a ball giving him a good time
Talk with him about it. Come to a mutual understanding of what you are looking for and what he is looking for. Since the two of you have had marriages and children then there is no need to prolong the courtship. If the two of you really care about each other and want a relationship then everything will fall in place. Good Luck!
What is holding you up? I can't believe you are asking this after 2-3 yrs with no sex...growth up.
if at all you feel you should wait, then do so... ...part of falling in love is the initial chase of the relationship......just enjoy the time you are spending right now.. ...eventually there will come a moment when the both of you will have no doubts and no body will pull away from the good night kiss.. ...that's when you know its time for more.. ...dint spend too much time worrying about it for now because it only takes away from enjoying all the pleasures of dating that you are experiencing now...
You are Muslim. So your Koran should be your guide. But since you live in America and have been married before. 2 months in a relationship is far too early to get to know each other well. Go ahead sleep with him when both of you feel it is the right time. Rely on your instincts.
drop your pants and ask him if he wants some - this is classic advice
Hey rani, dont even think about it all.


Let the body do what it has to do.


Do not interfere!!!!


The mind is always a nuisance. It will always try to make u feel guilty after.


So be free. No judgements!!!

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