I need advice! Help!?

Ok, I have to go to camp with my team. Now, the girl that I am rooming with I have known for a long time. But about half way into the school year last year, she became bisexual. Like, she went out with girls (you know the whole kissing, holding hands, grabing butt.... yuck). Not that I have any problem with them, but I perfer to hang out with straight people, like myself. Anyway, I just found out a few days ago that she turned full gay. Like, not even going out with boys anymore and strikley girls. And I don't want to sound cocky or stuck up or full of myself or anything, but I feel a little aquword rooming with her. Because we will be changing infront of each other and everything, and I don't like that. And I feel really bad about feeling this way, because she is a really nice person and I don't want to act like I am so full of myself that she is in love with me. Because she might not even like me like that, but I don't know. What do I do to feel more comfortable rooming with her?I need advice! Help!?
Question for you - are you attracted to every guy that you see? Then you should know that lesbians are not attracted to every female they see. As long as she's aware that you're not interested in that sort of lifestyle then she shouldn't try to force it on you. I realize that it's not easy to be in a room with someone who is different from you, but it may turn out to be better than you think and open your eyes to a few things. You may find that it's OK to be friends with someone who is a lesbian. Guys and girls have platonic relationships all of the time, so can a straight girl and a lesbian girl.





I'm not saying it won't be weird at all, but if you try to go into it open minded and instead think of her like a boy it might not be as weird.





OK and now I'm playing Devil's Advocate - there are ways to change where you don't have to show much skin. Practice that (like taking your bra off under your shirt) and maybe it won't be so bad.





Good luck.I need advice! Help!?
If you are roomies, you cannot be prudes.





Talk about what you each feel comfortable / uncomfortable with, and how you respect each others privacy and sexuality. If you are adult and reasonable about it then some common rules will become obvious.





If this fails, look for new roomies.
If she is so wonderful then have a chat with her. Let her know you are straight and let it be. I am sure you can find another place to change or wait till she is somewhere else. Why do so many people have a phobia with this issue. If she comes onto you then that is a different story but the majority of the gays and lesbians know the boundaries and they will leave you alone. Just think, you could be rooming with a straight girl who doesn't bath or something. Hehehehehe.
ok go to ryou room persanel and they will help you
Well, the best advice I can say is take it as it comes, if she knows you well enough to know that you are not that way then she should respect you enough to leave you alone. If you are still uncomfortable about changing in the room with her just ask her if she wouldn't mind turning away, if you feel guilty about asking tell her you're just shy. If it comes to a confrontation, tell her how you are feeling, if she's as nice as you say then she should understand how you feel.





Good luck hun.
Just tell her that you're staright and not interested and if she trys anything you'll kick her a**
See if you can change rooms with one of her dikes and tell her you did it to make her happy, she will love you for it!!!
you have a good point. i'm straight but i'm glad to see you not saying ';omg she's such a freak. what do i do?'; you seem like a really down-to-earth person.





i wouldn't change in the bathroom because if you want to be her friend and she doesn't even LIKE you more than a friend that may offend her. i see where it can be awkward, so i think what you should do is that when your changing (this only works for changing pants) take off your pants and use the pants you just took off and put them in front of your legs (kinda like a shield) and while you're putting on new ones you STILL hold those other pants in front of you. for your top, there's really nothing you can do. just try to change as quickly as possible. obviously socks aren't a problem, but if you need to change underwear then go behind a bed or something. if she asks why your hiding just say that you got a really bad scrape on your stomach and it's REALLY nasty looking. if she's one of those weirdos that ask you if she can see the scrape then just plainly say that you don't feel comfortable staring at your injury.





hope this helps. you're in a tough situation, so there's not much you can do to improve it.
i think that you should think about this do you think that she is interested in you and if she is tell her that you r totally into guys and set boundarys dont let her get the chance
just talk to her normaly and if she trys anything on you tellher you just like her as a friend trust me she'll understand!
you dont need to change your roomie ... or change that your straight , lol . but if theres a bathroom ( which there should be ) change in there if you dont feel comfortable . and you dont sound cocky , stuck up , or full of your self , i'd think and feel the same exact way . and you can always talk to the people who choose who rooms with who , and see if they can switch you with some one else , and just tell them that you dont feel comfortable ... at all with rooming with her . and they should understand . hope my advise worked . and you can always e-mail me at shop_aholic47@yahoo.com


-samantha
well if you don't think about it being weird then it won't be...just cause she's gayy doesn't mean that she's some kind of animal that would just jump on you...she's still a person...still human and still sensible...you don't even have to be friends...but just think about it being normal..and that's how it'll feel....if you worry too much...then you'll think it's weird...she may not even like you like that...she probably just wants to be friends..and even if she does like you, she knows that your straight..so just chill, relax, don't worry, be happy!
Sounds like you have a problem. I'm sure there is a bathroom where you can change and she won't have to see you. If she is a nice person and you are straight, then you have nothing to worry about. Just let her know that you aren't into her lifestyle and would appreciate it if she didn't make you feel uncomfortable about the situation
get you head out of your *** you don't have to change in front of her there is a bathroom in your rooms
i say if she has a nice body just bang her!! all the cool girls are doing it and you don't want to be left out do you?? what would you rather see two girls making love or two guys making love?? see that's an easy answer cause nobody finds 2 guys making love beautiful!! make out with her she'll teach you a thing or 2
Well, if you can, maybe you could change clothes underneath your bed sheets, I've done that when I've felt uncomfortable. Also you might try changing when she's gone to the bathroom or breakfast.
What do you mean?
I understand you being worried and feeling a little awkward sharing your room knowing she is into girls. If I were you- Id just do things all like u normally do. Keep your chin up- dont let her know it bothers you and enjoy camp! She may be gay but it doesnt mean YOU are her type. She doesnt like ALL girls just like you dont like ALL boys ya know what I mean? She is still a person with feelings and should not be treated badly because of this. Its probably tough as heck for her right now and that would really mess it up for her! If she DOES hit on you- explain you are into GUYS! If she hits on you sexually THEN you have full rights to change your room! Good luck and have fun
just lay out some ground rules to start with, like no touchy feely in the room and no dressing naked in the full view of each other except with panties and bra still on! and no flirting or trying to make a move on each other, by all means be nice, most of the time very few straight girls even attract lesbians! just have fun at camp!
Change in the bathroom and close the door.
if she does not put herself off on you then dont worry about it. she is a person as well and gay or bisexuality is not a curse
I can understand how you feel. I suggest changing outside and out of sight from this girl when you change if it makes you really uncomfortable. But do not comepletley avoid her. Talk to her once in a while or let her into a conversation with your friends.
If you want to feel more comfortable rooming with her, then you need to get over some of your issues. Besides her sexual preference, has anything else about her changed? I'm guessing the answer is no - she's still the same person you've known for a long time and who I imagine, you've had some great times with at camp. So, did you have issues changing in front of her before? Probably not. If you found out that she has ZERO interest in you, and only likes you as a friend, how is your relationship any different than it was 3 years ago? It isn't!!! So - I would guess that most of your fear/stress is over her finding you attractive.... so get that issue out of the way as quickly as you can.





Tell her you want to talk to her, tell her how you feel and how you value her friendship and that you respect her and her decision to be herself. Then joke that this means more boys for you! (which should make her laugh and tell her that you are not gay in one shot!)





Chances are that she's not interested in you at all and you're stressing for no reason! Don't let it ruin your friendship!





Good Luck!!





Aloha!
There is no need to be judgemental toward her. Just tell her simply and plainly that you wnat to make a change.





You didn't indicate whether there is a lease and connecting agreement between the two of you. If the lease is in your name give her a decent amount of time to find another place but don't leave it open ended. Something like: by August 31 or talk to me sooner if it isn't going to happen.





There is nothing wrong with changing room-mates. Don't feel guilty. Room-mates are changed for many reasons.
Just be straight up with her and tell her that her lifestyle is fine for her, but you don't want any part of it. Just because she is gay doesn't necessarily mean that she is attracted to you or that she will hit on you just because you are female.
Don't rooms have bathrooms or closets? Change in there and if she makes a pass at you, be very straightforward and clear, and say, no thanx i'm really not into that. She has to respect what you are saying, if shedoesn't then report her and don't feel guilty.
well if u are realy worried about it u could ask to change dorms or u could talk to her aobut it and see if u could change in the bathroom or maybe when she is not around.
if u r not comfortable with her.....just tell her......
u have it better than wat i had to go thro i had to sleep next to a gay chick and sh ewas in love with me it was horrible..... good luck just tell her that u rnt like that and u dont like her like that if she trys to come on u good luck and i feel for u cause im straight to and that chick was screwed up
Being Gay is not contagious. And as for her ';hitting'; on you, just tell her you don't swing that way. Her being gay is not a new thing, she has been for a long time, she just didn't know it.


I don't think she is the good friend that you seem to indicate. You can't talk to her about your feelings? What about hers? If she is a friend then you should be able to talk about it and tell her how you feel.
HOPEFULLY THE BATHROOM HAS A DOOR YOU CAN CLOSE FOR PRIVACY ......


JUST CHANGE IN THERE.