Been given advice to find positive people, to exercise more, seek help, etc. What to do if no of it works?

Hi, in past questions i've been given advice to try to do things positive like exercise, go out more, find someone positive to talk to, go seek help (and/or get medication). Problem i'm finding is none that advise has altered the state i'm at. At first I questoned if I was even trying or if I wanted help, though realized I was at least making the effort before.





Guess I'm just trying to figure out what is it I haven't tried to do yet since i feel like i have tried the options previously stated.





Sorry, i guess i should expand it further later to describe my situation, though.Been given advice to find positive people, to exercise more, seek help, etc. What to do if no of it works?
Hmmm... since the good advices didn't work, maybe you should try focusing on here for a while... here on Yahoo! Answers. You will see that not only yourself has the worst problem(s). A lot of people on here have problems, too... and maybe you could find them to be even worse once you read them. But somehow, I feel they rather hang on a little further after reading some encouraging advices or their sympathy. Most people on here give kind answers and you will see that somehow they're doing their best to give you the advice that they assume you need. Are you some kind of a depressed person? Seek refuge on here for a while but just don't look at the bad ones. Relate yourself to others who may be as depressed as you are if you want to. You will see that you're not alone.Been given advice to find positive people, to exercise more, seek help, etc. What to do if no of it works?
You want to get off medications. I hope this is with your doctor's approval.





Indeed people will give you good advice but that is all it is! Advice. What they think is good for you, as per their perceptions of your own good. Just as you know what is good for you. Sometimes exercise can seem a little daunting, you may not be in the required state of mind/health to attend a gym or run for miles.





So make a balance. For instance, why not start walking, try walking in different environments, say urban, then through a forest, on a beach whatever! So walk and stop when feeling like it. You could maybe pick up stones, leaves, whatever! You could also take photographs, so as to make your walk a little more interesting. Then back home, look at what you picked up on your walk and think artistic talents! You might be able to turn stones, leaves, sea shells, whatever into a kind of craft, from painting them, arranging them, or who knows? Find out about them, the place where you walk and find yourself with a hobby.





Keep doing it and you'll find that you can, not only walk further and faster, but want to walk more, discover new places to walk. Maybe feel good enough to join a rambling club? Make new friends and, on days when you can't walk, enjoy doing something with what you picked up!
Maybe you are just seeking attention. Even negative attention is better than none at all, right? Here is a little checklist you can use to to determine what is true about how you think and act. B.E.A.C.H.S.


BELIEFS: What do you believe to be the truth about why you feel the way you do?


EXPECTATIONS: What do you expect to happen in the future, if things change, and if they stay the same?


ATTITUDES: What attitudes about your life have you developed which could be a barrier to changing the way you think?


COMFORT ZONES: Where, when, and with whom do you feel most comfortable? What might be changed to get a different out come?


HABITS: What habits have you developed which keep you engaged in negative or self-destructive behaviors?


SKILLS: What skills have you developed to avoid positive change, like lying to yourself, manipulating others or situations, etc.


How we think determines how we act. Repeating behaviors or thought patterns which aren't working for us only prevent us from feeling good about ourselves. Complete this checklist honestly and you'll begin to see patterns of behavior and thinking which are keep you from feeling happy or satisfied. Good Luck!
I had clinical depression years ago, and I found that working a job around people (even being a grocery clerk!), just to get out of the house, really helped me recover. I think helping people is the best treatment, and not sitting at home thinking of yourself. Psychology is hocus-pocus, and stay away from those freaky pills!!! They can have bad long-term effects, and I know someone who's trying to get off them and had a terrible time.
Start a daily wallking program, and see if there is someone you can walk with on a regular basis.





Take a class in a art or craft locally to expand your skills and increase your base of common ground with other people.





Keep trying. The condition of the human race is that we are here for the purpose of striving to improve our lot in life. Trying, failing, and trying again until you succeed is what life is all about, so get busy!
Give yourself a break, we cant be the life of the party all the time!


but i am a 'glass is half full' person, most of the time if you want to chat!


kmepham@gmail.com


just remember, laughter is the best medicine, SO SMILE:-)